" or "What do you do when you live hundreds of miles from your family?"The goal of this series of articles, beginning with this introduction, is to provide our readers with a place to bring those questions.One thing I’d like to point out before you read these questions is that we haven’t used this list in its entirety for all of the young men who have called on our daughters.It is a compilation of all the things we thought would be helpful to our daughters in making a decision of whether or not to move forward in a courtship.Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.People attempting to follow a courtship model within today's culture, however, often run into a lot of practical questions, such as, "What if her dad is unavailable or uninterested in being involved?Each young man is free to decline questions he feels are too personal.
While I do believe the modern concept of recreational dating is dangerous, even foolish, I do not see a “one-size-fits-all” model in Scripture for the godly pursuit of marriage.
This doesn’t mean that certain questions won’t be “deal breakers.” Obviously, if you discover the young man is not a Christian, it would be sinful to proceed toward marriage (2 Cor. Remember, these questions are meant to help everyone get to know one another.
One of our daughters and now-son-in-law (Ben and Tiffany) spent hours each evening by the fire discussing the questions. These are special times – you want special memories!
Some of the messages we've presented have taken the position that Christians can apply their faith in such a way that they can still work within the system they've inherited.
Other messages have stressed that Christians need to be much more counter-cultural.