This prison environment is so sterilized and neutral, it doesn’t lend itself to showing off personality. What are the subtle and glaring misrepresentations? Women have their hair extensions and whatever other enhanced aspects to them and men do as well.Family accounts can add a depth to your understanding of your prisoner’s naturally occurring mannerisms and quirks. It could be as simple as faking fashion sense and style.When they have visits, that’s the only time they clean up. If how they talk doesn’t match the style in their correspondence, that’s a clue.
You’ve listed all of the pros and cons and have ultimately decided, why not? Are the restrictions on your time, energy, emotions and other areas of your life limiting your desirability in “normal” dating situations?
I’ve been in prison for years with some people, then one day I see a photo of them in the free world, or overhear them with their family in the visiting room – and I’d have sworn this was a wholly different person. When all must wear the same prison issued clothes, it’s easy to fake.
Most everyone has ‘Photo’ clothes and ‘Visiting’ clothes that look nicer than their other clothes. In here there are many ways to make money, selling artwork and the such, but another one is letter writing.
While looking at it, see how many of the names say “family” next to them. People who have more support and connections tend to do better upon release, giving you and your relationship one less struggle to manage.
If family relations are stable, when it’s time, ask for introductions.